The Best Marriage Advice I Ever Recieved

We live in a culture of experts. You can find information on nearly anything you want. The most sought out information is still for relationship advice. People are hungry to make their relationships better. Single people are looking for advice on finding a partner. married people are looking for help in keeping a partner. Divorced people are looking for advice on not being with their previous partners. The advice runs the gambit from financial habits to sexual habits as ways to find and keep a relationship.

Although most advice has some string of truth in it, very little of the prevailing advice gets to the heart of the matter.  The advice I received years ago was simple and straight to the point.

First, be the kind of person that someone wants to be in a relationship with.  This will require a great deal of introspection and often times change. The harsh light of self-truth can be debilitating. We all want to think of ourselves as a “gift” to the opposite sex. But more than likely we, in our current state are more likely to be a burden than a gift. This introspection exercise requires that we see ourselves as we are, and also how God sees us in our full potential. The second part of the exercise will encourage us to forge ahead with changes in our ourself that need to be made.

Secondly, make sure you marry the right person. Is the person you are getting in the relationship with going the same direction as you. Do you value the same things? Are you on the “same page” in the most important things like faith, children, finances, sex? Do you have the same picture of your future together? Are you a “homebody?” Are they someone that wants to travel and see the world!! Differences at the beginning of a relationship may seem new and exciting but if you are planning on building a life with this person it might behoove you to be in agreement on the big things. Too many people make the mistake of thinking that their partner will change, or “grow out” of some of the things they want now. But all too often this is not the case.

The advice is simple, be the right person and find the right person.

Social Media and the Conservative Movement – Part one of a series

As I looked to do some research for this article I found there isn’t any. It seems to me that no one is talking about Conservatives and social media in any substantive way.

I saw the first important use of social media in 2009 when the US House was set to talk about the “American Energy Act. The Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi decided that it was more important to adjourn on time and get her book tour started than to work on making America energy independent.  Republican members of the House then used Twitter to let us know what was going on in Washington and what some Republicans were talking about in the House Chambers even. (Since the House was not in session, no rules were violated)

This confrontation and the “broadcast” of it through social media started the #dontgo movement that later led to in important leaders in the Tea-Party movement. I saw the power and importance of what social media could be at that point. It was a way that any of us could circumvent the “gate-keepers” of mass media and get our message out to potentially millions of people. This seemed powerful. Although I first noticed it being used by Republicans I didn’t ( like most of you) didn’t see or comprehend what was in store for us in the next 10 years.

The explosion of FaceBook annihilated My Space and began to dominate the social media landscape. So much, in fact, there was a Christain conservative “push back” against it.  Pastors across the country were preaching against the evils of this social media “thing”. They warned of the danger it was doing to relationships. The warned of the danger it would do to our children. They even warned that criminals were spying on people to find the most convenient time to rob their homes.

Social media was packed full of pictures of food, funny cat videos, and people falling and hurting themselves. Oh and the rise of the selfie! Teens found FaceBook a great way to share with their friends pretty much anything that they were doing, or not doing. This teen activity effectively kept their parent on the sidelines. So when those that were involved in conservative political activism thought of technology they never really considered social media as a viable medium. This was the sin of short-sightedness.  So many of the consultant class were those sidelined parents and grandparents. Social Media for them was something kids did not serious adults.  Certainly not serious adults involved in serious multi-million dollar politics.

Meanwhile, on the other side of the ditch, hundreds of young people swept in with the election of Barrack Obama were organizing events through Facebook and Twitter. The size and effectiveness of these events were startling to the conservative consultant class. They acted as if it was some sort of witchcraft. The fact of the matter they were getting beaten by a bunch of 19-year-olds.  But even as younger conservatives were rising up, the doors to the consultant class were bolted shut. It was still very difficult if not impossible to get anyone to listen to the importance of Facebook, Facebook ads, Twitter, Twitter ads, Youtube or podcasts.  The most technological innovation of the consultant class was still a “vibrant” email campaign.  Buying airtime on radio and television were still at the forefront of most strategies.  Even though people like Ned Ryun were developing tools to micro-target voters, the consultant class was ignoring the ability of Facebook to do the same on its advertising platform.

As social media grew, the left saw the potential to get the attention of a constituency.  Liberal causes joined social media and started using it as a platform to share not just events, but agenda. Well crafted posts as well as reposts of articles backing their agenda soon flooded social media.  They had opened a front in the pop-culture war. a front that was completely undefended.

We are even now scrambling to defend that front. What we didn’t realize was the owners of the main social media tools are allies of the left. All the time spent ignoring social media should have been spent creating a conservative social media platform. And now, it may be too late.

The State of the Democrat Party

President Trump gave his first State of the Union Address this Tuesday. The expectation from the legacy media was that Trump was to deliver a message of unity.  The purpose of a SOTU address is to meet with a joint session of Congress to explain the economic situation of the nation and try to employ the help of Congress to help with their agenda.  Not to “unify” the nation.

Trump performed his duties on the economy report flawlessly. He also did a great addressing his concerns as it comes to his agenda. Trump whether you agree or not has stayed true to his campaign promises.  He was masterful of bringing guests to illustrate the importance of his agenda items. This is a practice that presidents have used in recent history.  I must say that sometimes it is exploitive like it was Tuesday.  But it is effective.

President Trump brought the parents of two teenagers that were murdered by MS-13 gang members that entered the country as unaccompanied minors. He was trying to show the importance of border security. Now, it easy to conflate all immigration issues and Democrats want us to do just that. Talking about the bad hombres that enter the country illegally does not have anything to do with the 800,000 people brought to the country by their parents.  It seems that Democrats want to confuse these very different issues. The question is why? President Trump has offered amnesty to the so-called “Dreamers.”  I thought this is what the Democrats wanted. But they won’t accept it because it comes from Trump.

This continuous Trump hate is eroding the Democrat base as many people are opting out.  People that would normally support Democrats are distancing themselves from some of the outrageous antics of the left. The refusing to stand for the parents of the daughters that were killed by the MS-13 gang members has painted a horrible picture for many people.  When the American Civil Liberties Union’s biggest complaint was that Trump used the word America too much. It is bound to make normal people wonder aloud if the left has lost their mind.

I was told today that the “fact-checkers” clocked Trump telling a lie every 4 seconds during his address. Based on the nature of the address that’s  not possible.  But, it is something that gets spread and is leading to an erosion of the Democrat base in my opinion.  Put simply, the more Democrats hate, the more Trump wins.

Democrats seem to be on a collision course with a thunderous loss in the 2018 midterms unless they pivot back to policy and away from personality. This will give the supporters that are becoming increasingly uncomfortable with antics based politics something to grab on to.  This will also give candidates a platform to run on.  As this post is being written an intelligence memo has been released that seems to show that the only collusion in the 2016 election was between the DNC, the Clinton campaign, and the FBI and DOJ. So at this point, the entire Russian story seems to be falling apart. So it may be a great time to make that pivot.

The Need For Fight Back Media – My View

Like many of us I grew up under the impression that if you wanted to be informed you should read the newspaper and watch the TV news broadcasts. The New York Times, Washington Post, and the Wall Street Journal all beacons of journalistic integrity. They were the muckrakers of our day. They uncovered scandals an held politicians accountable. But things have changed. We watched Brinkley and Huntley, Cronkite and Rather thinking that these were the epitome of newsmen in the mold of Edward R. Murrow. But something changed.

Some would say that it was the advent of the cable news channels.  The 24/7 babble of CNN forever changed the picture of news and news gathering. On the major broadcast channels, the only obvious competition revolved round how trustworthy the new readers were and, holding on to the market share they already had. CNN was on up start cable and had to do something to attract viewers, not just at 6:00pm but all day. What could they do to get someone to watch a news broadcast at 3:30 in the afternoon?

They figured it out, they could be first on any scene and stay on that scene longer than anyone else. Then that was not enough they had to make that scene as dramatic as they could to keep viewers there. so they started using reporters with opinions to stir the pot a bit. CNN saw that the controversy of opinion would hold on to viewers. They liked it so much they divided up into teams. CNN ran “Headline News”, a “loop of the hour top stories, while n the next channel they ran some of the first opinion based programs. They were disguised and public affairs shows but were nothing more than as platforms for hosts to expouse  their opinions .

Early on CNN seemed to be pragmatic in their politic approach with hosts like Wolf Blitzer and Glenn Beck.  But the election of Barack Obama seemed to change things. More liberal, even leftist opinions were being lifted up as fact. Blitzer turned left and Beck went away. CNN was solidly in the corner of the Obama campaign, even against Hillary Clinton. Any appearance of objectivity was gone. That opened the door for MSNBC to try to “outleft” CNN. MSNBC went celeb with Rachel Maddow, a female comic with a talent for snark was now one of their leading opinion people. MSNBC understood left start power, it wasn’t long before Al Sharpton was front and center with a pro Obama show named “Forward” taken from the Obama campaign motto.

At this point it was on! A constant barrage of liberal and leftists dominated the airwaves.  An constant push of the Democrat narrative by talking points delivered into the homes of Americans. The balance is so thrown off Fox News being portrayed as a conservative “safespace.” When it is the most balanced of the major media outlets.

This slide by the cable networks forced the other networks to follow suit in order to hold on to viewers. Newspapers went along for the very same reasons, as their share of American influence continues to shrink.

So I believe it is time for someone to expose  the MainStream Media for what it is, the propaganda arm of the Democrat Party and the Marxist movement in America. This is why we started Fight Back Media Group. We are dedicated to bringing attention to this dangerous and destructive narrative by main stream media and pop culture. This narrative has been especially harmful in urban America.

We are ready to partner with the best urban conservative voices in America to bring a the counter narrative to communities that need to hear it most. We are partnering with voices like Sonnie Johnson, Shirley Husar, K Carl Smith, Rev. CL Bryant, and Kevin Batts to shine light on what Democrats and the left with the help of Main Stream Media have been doing to urban America for more than 50 years.

Help us as we embark on this admittedly “David vs. Goliath” endeavor.  Along with our internet campaigns we are planning important townhall style meeting around the country to bring the message of the urban conservative to urban America!


Our Fight Against Big Government Is Not Just In Washington

I received a copy of a letter that a local Pastor sent to Tampa City Council today concerning the churches desire to build a preschool on their property. Although it does not surprise many of us that the city has taken the position is has, I am publishing this to illustrate that a big government that smothers real progress that community leaders are ready to make.

This is the copy of the email I sent to the Tampa City Council today 10/11/2016 regarding their fees for approving our preschool / daycare.

Dear City Council Members;

I am a pastor of a Tampa church which has served the community with food, clothing, and cash donations for over 20 years. We recently decided to add a preschool to our existing ministries. In order to be included in the VPK program I applied for a special use permit with the city of Tampa on 9/30/2016; I was shocked to learn that I would need to pay over $1,500.00 in fees, obtain another survey of my church facility, and present my request before you twice before I could proceed with the preschool / daycare program. I believe that as a not for profit organization your fees are excessive, and considering our level of community involvement, unjust and unnecessary. We are trying to provide a service to working families and I believe it is incumbent upon civic leaders to facilitate our actions not hinder them. I request that the fees be reduced if not eliminated and that you promptly move on approving our application.


Pastor Dr. Tony Smart
Victory Baptist Church
6202 South MacDill Ave.
Tampa, FL 33611.

Please help Pastor Smart in his quest to help his community by contacting your City Council member.

What Will You Focus On?

During the presidential debates Hillary Clinton doubled on the left’s jacked up race narrative. When Trump mentioned making Urban neighborhoods safer Lester Holt and his boss Clinton scoffed at the mere notion. But since when is the only problem facing Urban America racism?

These Are Times That Try Mens’ Souls

This week, two more police shooting that result in the death of two Black men. Black Lives Matter, and the rest of the usual suspects take over Facebook and twitter calling out all of us “Uncle Ruckus” types because we have spoken of up for law and order in our own community. We seek safety in out community. We know that chaos will not provide the atmosphere for growth. And for this will are “part of the problem.” Well today lets talk about the events of the past couple of days.

Terrance Cutcher, was shot and killed by a Tulsa police officer. The dashcam video along with the helicopter footage makes this look like a “bad shoot.” There is an investigation going on and we will see what the Tulsa Police Department determines. At that point we will be in a position to make further commentary. In the other shooting Keith Lamont Scoot reportedly had a hand gun. His family says it was a book. But according to police, Scott was told numerous times to drop it and did not and was eventually shot and killed by Brently Vinson, a Charlotte PD officer. Not that it matters but Vinson is Black. There is an ongoing investigation and we will know more soon.

I am encouraged in the Tulsa shooting based on how quickly the dashcam and helicopter video was released, even though it did show the Tulsa PD in the best light. I am hoping that if there are charges to be filed that it all happens quickly and peacefully. I have not seen video of the Charlotte shooting. I also hope that if there is video it is shown quickly and justice is swift. However that manifests.

My concern is the tense atmosphere in Urban America. In this atmosphere both residents and law enforcement have to be in together. And this makes every encounter more dangerous. Stakeholders in these communities must be willing to engage law enforcement to ease the tension and the atmosphere. Law enforcement have to be willing to make changes to policing and training to ease the same tensions and distrust. Neither side can afford to stand like a north going Zax and a south going Zax nose to nose face to face in the prairie of prax. It is beneficial for all involved to work on real solutions that will make Urban America safer.